relationship counseling, why bother?
Have you ever tried untying a tight old knot? In the darkness? With one hand? How about untangling a knot that is tying your hands together? Will you manage to untie it yourself? Unfortunately, that's not very likely. We prefer to try and untangle the knots of personal relationships by ourselves, but they only get stiffer with every chaotic and unsuccessful attempt to deal with them. And only when people realize that it's a deadlock and there's nothing they can do on their own to loosen it, they come to me. I know how to loosen these personal relationship knots. Not all of them, but many kinds.
My nineteen-year experience allows me to evaluate the situation and determine whether or not I'd be able to help you manage it. After a preliminary interview I either undertake a case or provide recommendations of further actions to be taken, or perhaps of another specialist who might be better suited to fit your needs. This preliminary appointment is free, and it's fundamentally important to the therapy process. Following this interview I will be able to give you a general outline of my vision of your situation, and you will be able to make a decision of whether you want to start the process of untying this knot, and whether you want me to assist you on this journey.
There are professionals in the psychotherapy field who can solve any problem, or at least undertake it. I am not one of them - for better or for worse. There are issues that I am more familiar with, have more experience in, and a certain history of successful recovery, just as there are cases that I prefer not to take up. This is the reason why the preliminary interview stage is crucial – I will make a decision whether I will be able to be helpful to you in your situation, and you will make a decision whether or not to work together with me after hearing my analysis of your case. Below you can find a list of the areas that I specialize in.
RELATIONSHIPS BETWEEN PARENTS AND CHILDREN, BETWEEN COUPLES, BETWEEN DIFFERENT GENERATIONS OF THE FAMILY, ANALYSES OF CURRENT SITUATION , IMPROVEMENT OF FAMILY RELATIONSHIP/COMMUNICATION. MUTUAL UNDERSTANDING
IMPROVEMENT OF COPING/COMMUNICATION TECHNIQUES
ALL ASPECTS OF INDIVIDUAL THERAPY, CBT, PERSON-CENTERED APPROACH, SKILL BUILDING, IMPROVEMENT OF COMMUNICATION PATTERNS, ROLE PLAY, ROLE REVERSAL, SELF-SOOTHING TECHNIQUES, EMPLOYMENT OF POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS
ISSUES THAT SAME SEX COUPLES FACE
Sometimes the right word at the right time, the right advice resolves a conflict that seemed hopeless beforehand. Yes, it is unlikely, but what if it works?
You can use this form and ask me a question and I'd be happy if my advice has some healing effect. Or if I see that the situation requires therapy, I'll honestly inform you of that.
I can answer you in a completely confidential e-mail, or publish the answer anonymously on my website - perhaps it will prove useful to someone else. The decision is yours to make.
I received my MSW from the NYU Silver School of Social Work (formerly Ehrenkranz School of Social Work) in 2000
Passed my LCSW exam in 2001
19 years of experience in various fields of social work/psychotherapy/counseling
8 years in private practice
"Faina was the first and only therapist I went to. She's one of the best in her field of work. She genuinely cares about her patients and her work. Being bilingual in Russian and English really improved the time I spent with her."
" I went thru at least 3 different professionals prior yet failed to connect with either one of them. I was trying to cope with my failed marriage and the domestic violence in it which left me emotionally and physically broken. Meeting Faina, in the midst of what is hands down the most painful period of my life was nothing short of a miracle."
"My entire family has been working with Faina for several years. She has been an immense help to us all. Faina is a genuine, caring soul, with rare insight, and I highly recommend her."
"I'm not one of the greatest clients but Faina has never given up on me. I suffer from anxiety, depression and bipolar disorder so every day is a struggle for me some days are worse than the others but I push myself because of Faina's persistent methods of helping me deal with the everyday struggles." A. E.
"Great and friendly, Faina always listens through. Non-judgmental and understanding."
"I'm with Faina Solominskaya for over three years. She is a very easy person to talk to, very accommodating and helped me to resolve some of my issues."
"I've been seeing Faina Solominskaya for over a year and when we first started our sessions I was a total mess. I absolutely gave up on life and myself. I was institutionalized 2 times for attempted suicide and depression. When I got out of the hospital I found Faina and she totally straightened me out."
"My daughter had insecurities and troubles with behavior and her grades at school, at home she had some attachment problems and fears; We have been seeing Faina for just little over a year now, and my daughter’s results in school improved significantly, she has totally overcome her fears and her attachment problems on a personal level; I
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